A blog about the mess that occurs in my life. Some good, some bad, a lot random.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Another Guest Post
Remember when I had Aubree do that guest post, & then I did a guest post on her blog? Well I also had reader/Facebook friend Caleb do one as well. Granted, it's taken me about a month to post this because daddy's been busy, but never late than never. Take it away, Caleb!
"Recently I’ve been reading about people who get themselves in all sorts of F’ed up situations because they’re trying to be “nice.” (This means you, Andrew)I have an aversion to the term “nice,” but I’m not going to get into that here.Instead, I’m going focus on the part of “nice” where you hear what someone is saying through the filter of best intentions.It’s time for a post about “Creepy people translation.”
To make sure we’re on the same page I’m going to start out with an easy one.Picture, if you will, an old guy in a van leaning out the window to offer you free candy if you’ll just hop inside with him.He is probably down to a handful of teeth, wearing a ragged hat, and perhaps overalls with no shirt underneath.
He says “I will give you some free candy if you come over here to the inside of my van!”
You think “Hmm… he probably has a driver’s license, so he’s safe.And I DO like candy…”
He means“I need a lampshade and your skin looks conducive to light.”
Obviously this isn’t a good idea, right?Is it “nice” of you to not go to his van?Probably not.So f*ck “nice.”
Next up: you’re a girl, on a dating site, and a guy has just “winked” at you and sent you a message.He has a picture of himself with his shirt off, backwards hat, and glasses.Essentially his message is “hey gurl u so fiiine- lets hook up soon.”You brush this one off, but he keeps sending more all the time (cuz he’s a creeper).Eventually, you may decide to take him up.Here’s the translation:
He says ”I find you attractive and we should meet.”
You think ”Gosh, maybe I’m being close-minded.He might be a decent guy and I’m not giving him a shot.Plus, maybe he’s kind of cute in real life.”
He means “I’m trying to bang 50 hoes this week and you look like a great #46.I will wear you down over time and then roofie you into my bed.PS see my sweet shades?”
If any part of you thinks that this guy isn’t a weirdo who will harass you incessantly, I know a prince in Jordan who is trying to get a few million gold bars out of the country.
Next:you’re working somewhere and a customer is spending a lot of time talking to you.They’re asking personal questions, they’re kind of [older, weird looking, homeless-y, etc.] and you’re not quite comfortable.Inevitably they ask for your contact info.You consider giving it to them.Tranlation:
They say “I’m really interested in you as a unique person!You should tell me more about yourself, then give me your number and facebook info so that we can continue this fascinating discussion.”
You think “They seem… nice.It doesn’t hurt to talk to them I guess.I’ll just give them my Facebook stuff and not accept their friend request.I don’t want to tell them to bug off cuz that might be mean.
They mean: “I’m going to keep asking you crap about yourself to keep you talking long enough that you’ll give me your information.Then, I’m probably going to stalk you.Maybe I’ll get to take you out to the back of my car, but at the least I’ll be able to text-bomb you for weeks or even months!”
Hopefully you’re starting to see a pattern here.If not, I have one last counter-example for you, and maybe it will help illustrate things:
You’re a small child in the cold of winter.A large man in an oversized outfit and a long beard is beckoning for you to sit on his lap and confess your desires.Your parents urge you forward.
He says “Ho ho ho! Merry Christmas!Come sit on my lap and tell me what you want this year!”
You think “Hmm… mom said to avoid strangers, but he seems pretty cool.And merry.”
He means “I’m getting $100 bucks to be cheerful and listen to you snot nosed punks tell me of your greed.Hurry up.”
This situation?Totally okay.Seriously- Santa is good shit.
Well I hope this helped clear a few things up for you folks.If I can keep even one person from getting into a trucker’s cab after working at the theater all night, I’ll have done my job.